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By Janice Baylis, PhD
Hair and thinking both come from the head. So on the basis of similarity of location dream-mind associatively uses visible hair to represent invisible thinking. The condition of a dream character’s hair may represent the condition of that dream character’s thinking.
Many interpersonal relationships need thinking about and dreams may help.
RELATIONSHIP DREAMS
This is my own dream from a time when I was starting to get new ideas about dreams from my personal and teaching experiences with dreams. One well-known dream worker, who shall remain nameless, had ideas I was beginning to question. My dream:
‘I am in a group of people seated on the floor [understanding]in front of _____. I see little specks of black in _____’s hair. They are lice!’
Awake I made the extension from lice to
lousy
. _____’s thinking was lousy. This dream gave me confidence to disagree with ______ and trust my new ideas about dreams. It was both a relationship evaluation and a self-evaluation dream.
Florence was concerned about her upcoming second marriage. She is engaged to Victor a man from a different religious faith. This is okay with Florence, but it is really upsetting her mother. Florence’s dream:
‘Victor and I are straightening up my living room [her life]. We stack magazines, fluff couch pillows etc. Butterflies are in the room and some get in my hair. One stings my head. Victor and I fan at them and are laughing.’
The main feature of butterflies is the complete changes in their life cycle. The changes from egg to caterpillar to chrysalis to butterfly are complete, drastic changes. This kind of complete change in Florence’s thinking is indicated It ends up beautiful and makes Victor and her laugh/happy. Florence’s mother will just have to accept it.
Debra has been dating the same guy for several months. Debra’s dream:
‘My boyfriend shows me three large bald spots on the top and back of his hair. These he has kept covered by the way he combs his hair.’
While talking about this dream in my dream-study class, one of the other students suggested, ‘Lack of hair, lack of thinking could be
thoughtlessness
. Has your boyfriend become thoughtless of you, taking you for granted? Perhaps three times lately?’
‘Oh my God,’ gasped Debra. ‘That’s it!’
Jackie a single-again gal in her forties had been dating John, a single-again guy in his late forties. Jackie’s dream gave an accurate evaluation of their situation. Jackie’s dream:
‘John and I are in the lobby of a hotel [place to stay temporarily]. He is acting very aloof, pulling me along by the hand, but not paying any attention to me. It makes me feel lonely and empty. His mind is on finding a group of young people we recently left in the hotel restaurant. We go back to join them, but they have left. We go to the pool, they aren’t there. We go to the tennis courts, they aren’t there. We end up in the lobby and are told the young people have checked out. John has his eyeglasses in his hand. I notice there are specks of dandruff on them. There is dandruff on his temples too. I withdraw my hand from his and walk out onto the sidewalk. I feel I am to meet someone else out there.’
John’s pursuit of lost youth is hopeless. His ‘fifty-going-on-twenty’ thinking is ‘flaky’/dumb. Jackie understood. She broke up with John.
There is much more to learn about dream-mind’s associative thinking process.
About the Author: Janice Baylis, Ph.D. holds an undergraduate degree in education and a doctorate in psychology. She has lectured widely, held workshops and taught college courses on dreams. She is the author of DREAM DYNAMICS AND DECODING: Personal, Practical, Powerful Messages,
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